It’s no wonder Christians tend to freak out about dating.Rather than trying to navigate through the world of dating in a healthy way, it’s easier to overcompensate for one extreme by simply developing another.
Interacting with the opposite sex became this pressure-filled, awkward interaction that left me feeling confused, impatient and lacking control. Dating in wider society is often portrayed as a feel-good experience.
I bought into the theory that dating was wrong and that the only way to find God’s one and only match for my life would be to wait for Him. If you feel “right” together, if you’re having fun, if there’s passion and pleasure, then it must be a good relationship.
I was so afraid of playing the dating game, however, that I stayed in the relationship far longer than I should have.
The Night That Changed Everything is my second novel co-written with Laura Tait.
I write the male character and Laura the female, so you get dual perspectives in alternate chapters.
It is a story of love and loss, and is available from all good bookshops, Amazon or Apple's i Books store.
As hard as it is now to admit, I was that young Christian girl who jumped on the bandwagon of kissing dating goodbye—except, of course, for dating Jesus. Though I wish I could change my relationship history, my choices make sense in the context of my former belief system.
But the longer the relationship progressed, the more I was certain that it was not the right fit for my life.
So excited to finally meet a man who pursued me, I jumped at the chance to enter into a relationship with him.
But if this is the foundation of a relationship, commitment is often trumped by chemistry and loyalty is often replaced with lust.
It’s a mentality that causes us to live in the moment, rather than building a future at the same time.